I was working out in a gym one day last summer when a woman and her daughter came up to me. They were asking some advice about what machine does this and what machine does that. Basically, the mom was trying to hook up her daughter and I.

So I took the bait.

"Michelle" and I started talking on the phone and stuff and even went out acouple of times but all of a sudden she had ended all contact with me.

After about two weeks I sent her this e-mail.

"Hi 'Michelle,'

Well, I am sorry I have not called in a while but I feel that you've pulled away and that has caused me to pull back as well. Whether my perception is right or wrong it's how I feel. I've never been a very outgoing person because of my former weight problem so it's hard for me to be expressive/assertive with people I don't know well, such as you. It's not to say that I do not want to get to know you, in fact it's quite the opposite. I find you very interesting and alluring and would like to get to know you better. But with no reciprocation by you after that night at the feast, it's made me uncertain of what to do next. So, I'll ask you that question, what's next? If I am wasting your/my time by sending this e-mail then I apologize for bothering you and it won't happen again. But if I am not wasting your/my time, then I would like to see you again. I hope to hear from you but if not I wish you and your family the best.

Sincerely,
The_film_geek"

She responded that a friend of hers (since childhood) had been stabbed and killed two blocks from her house. The night she read my e-mail was the night of her friend's wake.

(That's just a little example of my timing).

She said that I shouldn't take her pulling away as a sign because she had basically retreated from life. That was her coping mechinism. But things have never gotten better between "Michelle" and I.

Which I think sucks becasue I've had a crush on "Michelle" since I started going to the gym. I mean I noticed her my first day. As I'd lose weight, I watched her lose weight. And she looks GREAT now and so do I btw.

But I don't know. I've always had problems with women.

Whatever.

I'll probably post again later.

P.S. - I couldn't get the spell check to work so please ignore the spelling errors.

thanx